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Ever had a co-worker, or perhaps a business phone call from someone, who wanted to attack you but still appear professional? Throughout your interaction they keep throwing out feints or thinly-veiled attacks... If you've ever had a job then you know the type.
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These veiled attacks - the strategic purpose of them is to draw you out so that you will retaliate, thus granting the other guy the high moral ground by making it appear that you were the aggressor. Do you know the best way to deal with this sort of attack?
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You deal with this sort of attack by re-positioning yourself and/or the attacker so that they cannot actually hurt you, and then accepting the attack without counter-attacking. This response tends to have one of two outcomes.
- The opponent becomes so unbalanced so that they attack you vigorously and openly, even though you are safe from harm. If this happens, at least you and everyone around you knows who the real aggressor is and the shape of the battleground. Also, people that unthinkingly attack with vigor from a position of weakness and unbalance tend to be relatively easy to topple.
- Alternately, since you refrain from counter-attacking, the opponent may take time to regain their mental composure and start acting professionally - actually accomplishing something productive. This is how my phone conversation turned out yesterday.
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Patrick Parker, is a Christian, husband, father, judo and aikido teacher, Program Director for a Cardiac Rehab, and a Ph.D. Contact: mokurendojo@gmail.com or phone 601.248.7282
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